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Daily Quote: “Errors are inevitable. The mark of character is not refusing to recognize them, but acknowledging them and taking responsibility.” Andrew Sullivan

Open yourself up to an understanding about failure. The only way to put any failure behind you is to fully admit that you messed up, made a mistake, had a negative outcome and many more ways of stating the same.

You could have overspent on your credit card and are now finding yourself in huge debt. Admit to this by accepting that you overspent. Stop lying to yourself that you needed all those clothes, holidays, luxuries, toys for the kids and more spending examples.

What if you had to use your credit card for necessities in your life? The same principle applies. Admit that you had to use a credit card, in other words borrowings, to pay for expenses that you required to live on.

By admitting to the failure, and yes sometimes the world gives you a shove into a failure, you will be able to honestly look at solutions to your problems. If you do not admit that you used a credit card for purchases that you could not afford then you can never address the problem.

As another example consider the instance when your relationship broke up. You might have moved out from your partner, gotten a divorce, stopped speaking to a family member or crossed a close friend off your christmas card list.

Consider these happenings and admit that somewhere in this break-up you were also at fault. It might have been only a part fault. After all it’s rare that a relationship breaks up due to one person only. There are generally at least two people involved in a break down of a relationship.

Admit to your part. In some cases you might even need to get help to find out what you might have done to contribute to the failure of the relationship. That could be a friend, family member, a mentor or coach or even a counsellor.

This kind of debriefing exercise is invaluable. You will be able to work out what went wrong, and how to approach further relationships with a view to making sure this one will last longer. Or it will even provide you with options on how to repair a broken one.

It is often the fact that we do not wish to admit to our fault in our failures that stops us from moving forward and enhancing our lives. By not admitting that we overspent, we will continue to spend money we do not have.

We could enter further relationships with the same habits and behaviour and wonder why they don’t last either. It is possible to blame everybody else all the time. It’s never our fault then. But where does that get you?

How are you going to become financially healthy or be able to enjoy the happiness that a good relationship can bring you? Does admitting to your failure make you a worse person? Does it make you less worthy?

On the contrary, admitting to your mistakes will allow you to find new solutions and ways to approach the situations in your life and will enable you to enhance your life. As a further bonus you will be admired by others for having the strength of character to admit to having made mistakes.