We sabotage ourselves all the time. It is incredible how our limiting beliefs can keep us back. We spend most of our time thinking we are not ready. We are not ready for success, ever.
Let’s see the kind of things we throw in our own way. We decide that we can’t do something because we don’t have enough money. We think we need more knowledge, preferably a degree or at the least a college education.
We are convinced we aren’t good enough at reading or public speaking to handle a presentation to clients. We know for sure we can’t ever run a marathon because we can’t run quickly. We can’t sing in a choir because we can’t read music. We will never be able to play a musical instrument because we are so clumsy.
Whatever task or goal we want to achieve we have a string of reasons why we can’t even start the job. These reasons can be little ones such as deciding not to learn a new language because we can’t concentrate or because we don’t have an ear for music, or some other totally arbitrary reason.
It can be a big reason why we don’t work towards a goal we would love to achieve. We could decide against ever attempting a degree because our vision is not good. We feel because we can’t see well that this would stop us from achieving this dream we might have.
Many people will think that owning your own home is beyond you especially with the economic turmoil and the fact that so many people lost their homes. This kind of news might make them not even try to work towards this goal.
Just these two tiny action steps that if acted upon can begin to make a huge difference in your life. It can start you on your way to integrating your self scripts with action so that you can overcome self sabotage in both personal and professional, financial and relationships. 1. Set achievable Goals. 2. Face Challenges.
Have a look at your own goals and especially ones you might have given up on already. See what reasons you have allowed yourself to believe in that have stopped you from even working towards something you wish you could have. You haven’t even tried to aim for that goal because you already gave up at the beginning.
Sabotaging yourself is a universal problem and stops most of us from getting anywhere near where we wished we could be. Economic freedom? Never. After all how could you aspire to that with the small salary you earn every month.
What makes us sabotage ourselves? Mostly it comes down to the fact that we have no self-confidence or self-belief in our own abilities. We often feel we are not worthy of great success.
We also believe that failure to attain our goals will make us look bad. We have often been in a situation where our failures have been laughed at by other people and where our efforts have been belittled. We don’t want to make the same mistake again and be seen to be a failure.
This makes us stop trying. We think of as many excuses that we can find so as not to even start towards that goal. We don’t want to fail. We don’t want other people to see us as a failure. And above all else we don’t want people to have an opportunity to laugh at us and tell us that they told us that we couldn’t ever achieve that goal.
Ever heard of a worry diary? Keep one. Several studies have found that patients who write about their concerns experience significantly less depression than those who don’t. By writing down your fears, you begin to feel that you’re more in control, and that helps you deal with them.
Accepting and anticipating failure before you even have a chance to fail is stopping you from even trying to work towards your goals. It’s a mindset that is very difficult to change but really needs to if you want to stop yourself from sabotaging your own efforts.