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How Not To Respond To Feedback

Sep 10

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 1 Comment

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “Once you embrace unpleasant news, not as a negative but as evidence of a need for change, you aren’t defeated by it. You’re learning from it.” Bill Gates

Have you ever played a game as a child where you had to find something and all the other participants would call out whether you were hot or cold? If you were hot then you were getting closer and with cold you were searching further away from what you wanted to find. This was particularly great fun over Easter when looking for the last chocolate bunnies.

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Motivational and Inspirational Quotes

Sep 8

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 1 Comment

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Daily Quote: “It often happens that the quotations constitute the most valuable part of a book.” Vicesimus Knox

“The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.” Robert Schuller

“When you find yourself stressed, ask yourself one question: Will this matter in 5 years from now? If yes, then do something about the situation. If no, then let it go.” Catherine Pulsifer

“Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” William Ellery Channing

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Listen Up And Watch Out For Feedback

Sep 5

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 2 Comments

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “Negative feedback is better that none. I would rather have a man hate me than overlook me. As long as he hates me I make a difference.” Hugh Prather

Most often we consider feedback to fall under the negative category. The fear of being criticized and possibly to even be ridiculed for making a mistake, stops us from looking for feedback. On the other hand positive feedback is always welcomed by us.

What is the difference? The difference is only in our perception. If somebody says that a particular project could do with a bit more polish or finishing off we bristle at the criticism. But we are very happy to hear when somebody tells us that a project is outstanding and could win us a prize.
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How To Get Over The Rejections You Face

Sep 4

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development, Self Improvement | No Comments

rejectionDaily Quote: “We keep going back, stronger, not weaker, because we will not allow rejection to beat us down. It will only strengthen our resolve. To be successful there is no other way.” Earl G. Graves

During your life there will be many instances where you will face opposition to your goals. This could be by missing out on a study place at your favourite University or losing out on a job you really had your heart set on getting.

There could be a date you never got asked out on, or a sporting event where your time wasn’t good enough to get selected for the main team or even the Olympic squad of your country.
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Funny Quotes About Life

Sep 3

Posted by Robin Bal in Little Humor | 1 Comment

funny-02Daily Quote: Friendship is like peeing on yourself: everyone can see it, but only you get the warm feeling that it brings.

“Life is just one damned thing after another.” Erbert Hubbard

“There’ll be two dates on your tombstone/ And all your friends will read ‘em/ But all that’s gonna matter is that little dash between ‘em…” Kevin Welch

“Live every day as if it were your last, because one of these days you will be right.” Unknown author
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The Myth About Rejection

Aug 30

Posted by Robin Bal in Self Improvement | No Comments

26256311-main_FullDaily Quote: “A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” Bo Bennett

The idea of rejection happens in our own mind. We feel the rejection with our emotions. Could it be just a perception? Just because somebody said ‘no’ to us does not mean anything more than that the person said no.

Yet we make so much more out of it. We take personal umbrage if somebody denies us a request. In fact in some instances we feel rejected without even asking first. We just ‘know’ they are going to say ‘no’, so we feel rejected without even trying.
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Authority Sites And Their Basics

Aug 29

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 1 Comment

Audi_Numbers_Blog_560pxDaily Quote: “Anyone who thinks there’s safety in numbers hasn’t looked at the stock market pages.” Irene Peter

When you were playing basketball as a youngster you would get some balls through the hoop and many would miss. But you always knew it was a numbers game. What you spent hours doing, was to make the numbers game skewed in your favour. The more you practiced the more you got in.

The same applies to scientific breakthroughs, to political achievements, to financial success or to sporting championship wins. The more you try the more chances you have of succeeding.
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What Is Your Penalty For Not Asking

Aug 28

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development, Self Improvement | 1 Comment

3517179610_9b5ae9a688_oDaily Quote: “When I hear somebody sigh, “Life is hard,” I am always tempted to ask, “Compared to what?” Sydney J. Harris

One of the most reluctant tasks we take on ourselves is to ask for help. We hate doing it. Our fear of possible rejection, our embarrassment in being turned down and the thought of making a fool of ourselves stops us dead in our tracks.

Here is a great exercise to do. List seven goals you would like to achieve selecting various categories in your life such as relationships, careers, education, money earning, health, fun time and recreation for instance.
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5 Ways To Ask For What You Want

Aug 26

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 1 Comment

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “If there is something to gain and nothing to lose by asking, by all means ask!” W. Clement Stone

It’s difficult for most of us to ask for help. We anticipate that our request for help will be denied and we expect that we will be rejected. To avoid the pain of this rejection we prefer not to ask.

Here are five ways to make asking for help so much easier. It will be worth your while to make a note of these tips when needing to ask for help. Being able to ask for help will make your life so much easier to navigate.

Tip 1. Ask as if you expect to get your help. A positive mind will help you ask with greater confidence. You expect this help, you deserve to get help and the person you are asking is only too happy to help. In fact they truly want to help you.
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Check The Bottom Line

Aug 25

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | No Comments

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “The manager has his eye on the bottom line; the leader has his eye on the horizon.” Warren G. Bennis

You’ve written down your goals, you’ve put together an action plan and now you are ready to go for it. Before you launch yourself into prolonged activity it might be worth it to work out what the bottom line will be when you’ve achieved success.

Working out the bottom line means you work out what the costs will be. The costs are not necessarily only associated with financial costs but may also be broader and include relationship and personal costs, time costs and resources costs.
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