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What To Do With Feedback

Sep 16

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development, Self Improvement | No Comments

2066314126_233482b861Daily Quote: “Champions know there are no shortcuts to the top. They climb the mountain one step at a time. They have no use for helicopters!”
Judi Adler

The first point to remember about the feedback you are getting is that the person offering it is taking a risk. By telling somebody something about them, especially if it could be considered negative, you stand the risk of being rejected yourself.

Providing feedback is a risky business. Think of the concept of shooting the messenger. There’s some truth to that saying. You could be considered a bad person, or making a fool of yourself, by telling somebody that they are on the wrong path.
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Use Feedback To Help You On Your Way To Success

Sep 15

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development, Self Improvement | No Comments

feedbackDaily Quote: “Champions know that success is inevitable; that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. They know that the best way to forecast the future is to create it.” Michael J. Gelb

In the business environment market research is used to determine what products might be useful for the target market and which ones could be profitable and popular. In our lives we seldom do any market research. We decide on a goal and just go for it.

Use feedback like market research. There are several ways of going about it. You can ask around for feedback on an idea you have and build your goal around the answers you receive. For instance you might want to start a new hobby and think that playing a musical instrument could be fun.
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Be Prepared To Ask For Feedback

Sep 14

Posted by Robin Bal in Self Improvement | 1 Comment

3398704844_d57075a236Daily Quote: “It’s a rare person who wants to hear what he doesn’t want to hear.” Dick Cavett

Many of us are very unwilling to ask for feedback. This is because we are scared of what we will hear. We would rather keep our head buried in the sand and not hear any bad news or negative feedback.

As much as this is understandable it doesn’t help not knowing the truth. If you are offending your partner by teasing them mercilessly in public and laughing at them, wouldn’t it be better to know that this is hurting them?

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Ask For Feedback And Improve Your Performance

Sep 12

Posted by Robin Bal in Self Improvement | 2 Comments

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” Norman Vincent Peale

Many times in our lives we stand at a cross roads and we don’t know what to do. What would help us would be to find a person or coach and get some feedback to really maximise our life experiences. But we don’t ask or employ a coach. We think we can do this ourselves.

There are many times when we are faced with particularly difficult decisions and do not know what to do next that we could really do with listening to some good advice. All we need is to find somebody competent to ask.
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Do You Always Listen To Feedback

Sep 11

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 3 Comments

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “When others come to you with an unprompted idea or suggestion, stop what you are doing and listen with your eyes, ears, and heart.” Mitch Thrower

How often have you ignored feedback? And what were the consequences of that? There are easy examples such as getting lost, or catching the wrong bus. There are some really serious ones where you damaged your health because you followed the wrong diets or had an accident because you were talking on your mobile while driving.

Probably the most obvious situation is when you ignore the instructions to find your way to where you want to go to. You have checked the map but it didn’t look right. So you asked somebody and they told you the same way. It still didn’t feel right, so you ignored all advice and followed your instinct. Many hours of driving in the wrong direction later you finally decide to turn back.
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How Not To Respond To Feedback

Sep 10

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 1 Comment

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “Once you embrace unpleasant news, not as a negative but as evidence of a need for change, you aren’t defeated by it. You’re learning from it.” Bill Gates

Have you ever played a game as a child where you had to find something and all the other participants would call out whether you were hot or cold? If you were hot then you were getting closer and with cold you were searching further away from what you wanted to find. This was particularly great fun over Easter when looking for the last chocolate bunnies.

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Listen Up And Watch Out For Feedback

Sep 5

Posted by Robin Bal in Personal Development | 2 Comments

www.selfalot.comDaily Quote: “Negative feedback is better that none. I would rather have a man hate me than overlook me. As long as he hates me I make a difference.” Hugh Prather

Most often we consider feedback to fall under the negative category. The fear of being criticized and possibly to even be ridiculed for making a mistake, stops us from looking for feedback. On the other hand positive feedback is always welcomed by us.

What is the difference? The difference is only in our perception. If somebody says that a particular project could do with a bit more polish or finishing off we bristle at the criticism. But we are very happy to hear when somebody tells us that a project is outstanding and could win us a prize.
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